To send sexy photos to your partner, choose an image that feels like you, ask if they’re somewhere private before you send it, and tell them how you’d like it to be kept. If you’re wondering what to photograph, start with a detail the two of you share. It could be the shirt you always steal from them, the heels you wore the night you met, or a look they know means you’re up to something.
Decide how much you want to show
Think about what you’d enjoy sending. You might like the idea of a bare shoulder, a close-up of your legs in your favorite heels, or a full-length portrait in an outfit that makes you feel good. If you feel awkward getting started, take the first few frames in something you already wear around the house. An open collar or a sleeve falling off one shoulder can change the mood of an otherwise familiar photograph.
You can also decide whether you want your face in the frame. A close crop on your hands, your back, or the line of your shoulder can feel deliberate and personal. Take a few versions and look at them after you’ve put the camera down. You’re allowed to like a photograph enough to keep it for yourself.
Use the light you already have
For a softer photo, stand beside a window during the day and turn your body slightly toward it. Watch what happens as you turn your face toward the light and then away from it. For a moodier frame, switch off the overhead light and try a single lamp off to one side. The shadows will change what the eye goes to first. You can use that to draw attention to whatever you like about the photo, from the shape of your back to the texture of what you’re wearing.
Set your phone on something stable, use the timer, and give yourself a few frames to settle in. Try sitting on the edge of a chair, leaning into the doorframe, or looking down while you adjust a sleeve. Small movements give you something to do and often make the photograph feel more like a moment your partner would recognize.
Send it when they can enjoy it
A little anticipation is part of the fun. “I took something for you. Are you somewhere private?” gives your partner a chance to choose when to see it. You can add a line that sounds like something you’d actually say, whether it’s playful, romantic, or a reference only the two of you will get. The photo can do most of the talking.
If you want the image kept between you, say that plainly. You can ask your partner to check with you before saving it or choose to show it to them in person. If you’re giving it for a birthday or anniversary, you could also tuck a print into a handwritten card and give it to them when you’re alone together.
When you want to give them something they’ll keep
A photo you take at home can be perfect for an ordinary Tuesday. An anniversary or milestone birthday might make you want to create something you can hold in your hands and come back to years later. A custom boudoir album gives you room to tell a story. You might begin in the outfit they always compliment, move into something more intimate, and end with a portrait you chose because you loved how it made you feel.
When I design a private boudoir session at Bohemian Visions, I want to know what you want to see when you open that album, too. Maybe you’ve had portraits taken before and loved the photographs but wanted the styling to feel more like you. Maybe it’s your first time and you’d like help figuring out what to wear and how to move. We can build the session around pieces from your own wardrobe, style your hair and makeup to suit you, and choose the settings together. I’ll guide you through the posing and expressions as we go.
Your boudoir experience begins with a conversation. If you’re imagining a gift for your partner or a set of portraits you’d love to have for yourself, we can talk about what you have in mind and how we’d create it at my private studio in Richmond, Virginia.
